Anyone who has been in chronic pain knows how it feels. But it is hard to comprehend the extent to which it “invades” our mind and body. If there was a machine that could see through our bodies and visually capture the presence of the pain, how would that look?
Would it see how it changes our personality. How it makes us less tolerant of anything that requires effort because it is just another thing we have to do with less ability to do it.
Would it see how it changes our lifestyle because we have to pay a pain price for everything that we chose to do and how we have to negotiate with our pain.
Would it see how it changes our self image because it has modified our bodies and its movements.
I feel that it is important to separate the Pain from the Person. To be able to blame our pain for these losses. And to know and to let others know that if it were not for the pain, we would choose to do things differently.
It is when we assume the pain and become our pain that we lose ourselves. I think that we need to remind ourselves and others that it is not our choice to have the pain. But it is our choice how we choose to deal with the pain.
I have read of primitive African cultures that give their pain a name. That seems wise and would remind you that your pain has its own identity. Have you tried to identify your pain? give it a name, shape or form? I would love to hear what you have done.